First, I travel way too much. Since I work in Columbus I'm always going to Cleveland or Dayton to see my parents or Greg. And since I only work 3 days a week...I have plenty of time to do this. However, it was taking it's toll. I was super stressed and over-tired. And that wasn't helping my relationship with Greg.
Secondly, in addition to the travel, I spent any free moment planing for the wedding. Making appointments with caterers or florists, picking shoes, collecting addresses, scanning the web for more ideas, etc.
Greg is now putting a big halt to all of this. I was instructed to stay home (in Columbus) today and tomorrow and rest...take some "me" time. I was also instructed to put a hold on wedding planning. We have 9 months and I'm way ahead of the game! But that's what I do, I like to be as organized and as prepared as possible! And I enjoy doing wedding things, but I will admit it started to become a job. So, thanks to the best fiance in the world, I am slowing down. I'm super thankful he called me out on it too because I would never admit to it.
Now that I've had a day to step back and rest- I have a new perspective. I had plans for damask fabric, floating candles, umbrellas in case of rain, and dreams of limos, videographers, and chair covers. But that isn't important. And I really don't care about a lot of that anymore.
What is important is that on Friday August 12, 2011 I will be marrying my best friend.
I don't know where I would be in life without him. And even though it is extremely difficult to live apart, it will be amazing to finally be together. And that is what is truly important. Being married to my other half is the ultimate goal...not what the matches look like or what color the flowers are. I could go on and on, but my point is that I'm so happy Greg asked me to slow down. I can now see what is important. In the long run it is our relationship that is important, and the stress of being apart and planning a wedding was compromising that.
Now I am thinking more about our marriage rather then the wedding because the wedding will last a day and our marriage will last a lifetime.
I'm looking forward to seeing where life takes us!!
SO TRUE!! You won't even remember your wedding day. Sure, it's a wonderful day because you're committing to each other, but there are SO many bigger, more exciting things ahead of you after that day! Just make sure you have good food at your wedding :) that seems to be all the guests care about anyway! :)
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